But what is the alternative? REGRET! Regret is the alternative! What’s the definition of regret? According to the same source (Merriam-Webster), the definition of regret is “to feel sad or sorry about (something that you did or did not do)”. Regret does not come with a choice. Regret is an emotional feeling that consumes us when we did or didn’t do something we were supposed to do? Another definition is “to feel sad, repentant, or disappointed over (something that has happened or been done, especially a loss or missed opportunity).” “A loss or missed opportunity???” When we desire something (i.e. doctor, lawyer, artist, wealth, etc…), it can be considered an opportunity. When we understand that in order to attain that which we desire there will have to be a sacrifice of some sort, the only choices are to make the sacrifice or don’t make it and live with regrets. Once the mind envisions that which you desire, it becomes etched in your brain. Once etched, the brain begins game planning ways to attain your desire. The desire becomes a permanent fix taking up real estate in your mind. Can’t be erased. If you do not make the necessary sacrifices required to get you to where you want to be, there too will be pain involved. There will be a degree of discomfort. There will be shame, disappointment, anger, fear, and many other negative feelings associated. All these feelings will be towards you. These feelings will cause you self-esteem problems. These feelings will lead you to blaming the world for your “missed opportunities”. This pain gained from regret is unpredictable in its manifestation, takes longer to get rid of, hurts much more, and is far more damaging to the human mind, body and soul than the associated sacrifice necessary to reach your desire in the first place.