Pleasure thrives in an environment of enthusiasm and excitement.
If a person has been with one partner for a long time, sex can start to feel routine, and it might appear increasingly tricky to feel excited, remain focused, or please the spouse.
It may help to try a new sexual activity or position or to have sex in a different location. Talking about sexual fantasies can make sex more exciting.
Additionally, it helps to do something new with a partner outside the bedroom, such as:
kayaking or hiking
going into a museum
seeing a brand new band
trying a new game
This can help people to feel more connected, and the delight of the new activity can carry in the bedroom.